Cat And Owl Become Best Friends

this is sooo … 🙂

The Feels

Marimo and Fuku-chan live at the Hukulou Coffee shop, named after the Japanese word ‘owl.’

They struck up an unusual friendship after the coffee shop owner Ritsuko Nagahara brought the Scottish Fold kitten home to keep the owl company.

“They were put together because they looked alike,” Mr Nagahara said.

Marimo and Fuku-chan. Image credit: Hukulou Coffee.

“Now they are inseparable.”

Pictures of Marimo and Fuku-chan sleeping together, playing or kissing have gone viral on Japanese social media sites.

Courtesy Of: AwwNews

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Reasons To Get Back To Your Ex

Why would anyone want to get their ex back? Why would you want to take back someone who walked out on you? Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you?

These are all legitimate questions that some people have about reconciliation. But not those who do want to get their ex back. They have a very simple answer to all these questions. And their answer is “I am still in love with my ex”. And as we all know, according to the media and the film industry, love is the only thing that matters in this world.

I’m really not against reconciliation, but in my own point of view, I don’t really see why go back to something that has already ended.  Anyway, the only reason to get back together is if you want to give the relationship another try and not because you need your ex.

The fact that you love your ex, you miss your ex, or that you are miserable without your ex is never a good reason to get back together. Your mind will trick you into thinking anything just to avoid the pain of breakup. So, I won’t believe anything that your mind that tells you after the breakup.

Here are a few reasons that your mind will give you (and you will try to give to your friends and family), which are not really a good reason for reconciliation.

  • I love him/her
  • I can’t live without him/her
  • I can never find someone like him/her
  • He/She was my soulmate
  • He/She was the one
  • No one can ______ (insert some activity) like he/she used to do.
  • He/She made me happy (the most ridiculous reason. If they did make you happy, why are you so miserable now)
  • I am miserable without him/her.
  • I can’t imagine a life without him/her.

There could be many other variations of the above. You know it’s not a solid reason if you can see a desperation or neediness in it.

Now that being said, there could be many reasons for trying it again. I know a lot of cases where couples got back together and went on to live a happy life.

Well, there are cases all over the Internet of people getting back together and staying in a happy relationship after that. Let’s look at some reasons where it would be a good idea to get back together.

1. The breakup was a rash decision

Sometimes, people break up because of ego. Sometimes people give up on a great relationship too easily instead of working on it. These types of breakups are usually a rash decision and not really thought out. Someone says something, and his or her partner over reacts and leaves him or her.

2. You have a child together.

A divorce or a separation can be really hard on a child. If there is a chance of getting back together and giving your relationship another chance, then you should do it. It’s worth a try. However, if you were in an abusive or toxic relationship, then separation is much better than being together. Nothing is worse for a child than to grow up in a toxic environment.

3. Circumstantial Breakup

A lot of times, people breakup simply because of circumstances. Maybe one of you had to go to another city for college or business and you didn’t want to try long distance. Sometimes, you wanted to try long distance but it didn’t work so you had to break up. If such is the case, then it is worth a try to get back together provided the circumstances have changed.

However, make sure you don’t spend your entire life just obsessing over your ex and hoping they will take you back. You should just try to get back together once and if it didn’t work, you should move on. Sometimes, a false hope can keep you holding on to lost cause. And before you know it, you’ve spent your entire life chasing someone that’s not worth it.

Using The No Contact Period

After you break up, it’s almost impossible to make a rational decision about whether or not you should get back with your ex. Your mind will definitely convince you somehow that it’s worth it. You will ignore all the problems you had and will only concentrate on the good things. You will make a montage of all the good things about your ex in your mind and play it over and over again until you are convinced they are the only one for you.

This is why the “NO CONTACT RULE” is extremely important. When you stop all communication with your ex for at least 30 days, your mind starts thinking clear and you are in a better position to make a life changing decision. When you realize you don’t need your ex to be happy in your life, you can weigh the pros and cons of your relationship without being biased.

So before you make any decision, make sure you have gone through the “NO CONTACT FOR 30 DAYS”. And if after that, you still want to get back together, then you can go ahead with the rest of the plan.

 

My advice to possible MISTRESSES-to be

There serious pitfalls of being a mistress that have nothing to do with being a “HOME WRECKER”. These are hazards to you, “the OTHER WOMAN”. This is what people don’t tell you about being a mistress. This is a warning from a current mistress to anyone who thinks it’s worth the risk to get involved with a married man.

I know that this isn’t an easy topic for a lot people to relate to and surely not one will elicit sympathy for me and that’s okay. I am who I am because of the decisions I have made in my life. I am not proud of all of them but they are still part of me. I know that despite how you may feel about my decisions you will at least respect my honesty in regards to this topic.

If you think that you want to get involved with a man in a relationship or a married man PLEASE realize that you’re going to have to deal with the following:

  • you often feel like shit about yourself
  • one or the other will eventually start to feel “more” and somebody’s feelings getting hurt
  • there is no way that it can last forever. In the end somebody decides it doesn’t work for them anymore.
  • you have no right to be angry with them when they say “they want to work things out” with their significant other.
  • your tears go unshed until they aren’t around to see them. Nobody wants a mistress who sobs all over them, we are supposed to be eternally patient, sexually satisfying, fun, devoid of the stresses of the reality. (unfeeling sick machines)

I think it’s pretty obvious that being a mistress is not somebody’s first choice, but it is a choice. It is not something that is to be taken lightly. It’s not all thrills and fun on our side. Don’t get me wrong though, at times it was… or else nobody would do it. But being in a relationship with somebody who was already in a serious relationship or marriage was hard for me. I know you’re all asking …

“Then why the hell did you do it?”

That’s a great question; a valid question actually. I guess it all came down to not being able to control who I cared for. In others it was pure thrill of it all, being wanted and wanting in return; no real emotions just the thrill. I know… really classy, huh? (plastik!) hahaha! It’s also because I was terribly insecure and had the lowest possible self-esteem (until now).

How does it feel to be a MISTRESS?

If you are referring to dating a married man, it feels like sh**

It may seem okay in the beginning, but it is the freeway to low self-esteem.  You have no rights and actually might as well just not exist.  If he dies tomorrow, you can’t even show up at his funeral.

You cannot introduce him to your friends or family – he is a secret in your life and you don’t exist in his.

All your time is “stolen” from his “real” family. You will never see him on holidays. You can’t call him when you need him for emotional support. You can’t go out into public with him. You can’t even give him presents because he has no way to “explain” them. Unless he is very wealthy, he is on a budget and can’t spend much on you either, like meals out, etc.  So you stay in and cook for him. How romantic. And how abused you are.

Remember never to wear perfume or lipstick when you meet with him. It may alert his wife, and, if you haven’t noticed, his wife’s feelings are a lot more important than yours.  That may not be what he says, but watch the way he acts. Who does he go to when he is bidden? You or her? Who gets plans cancelled at the last minute because the other one has something come up? You or her? Who is he afraid of displeasing? You or her?

They may say they’re going to leave their wife, and I guess about one in a million do, but, trust me, it isn’t worth sticking around to see if yours if the one in a million.  If you think you really love him, tell him to call you when he is legally separated and able to legally date you and be seen in public with you. Unlike one of the Beatles’ songs Love is NOT all you need – you need an equal footing with an equal partner.

Tell him to take a hike until he is legally available.  No more cooking in your apartment for him.  No more – I can only stay a few minutes – the kids have a party, or whatever.  Chances are you will never hear from him again – gee, WHAT A LOSS!!  Find a friend – doesn’t have to be romantic – male or female – where you can make plans and KNOW you can count on them and you can show your face in the sun.

No matter what he says to you, you are the LOWEST item on his priority list. Just watch his ACTIONS instead of his WORDS.

No matter how good it may seem at first, you will spend countless more hours crying and feeling desperate, desolate and alone than you will ever feel happy with him.  Usually you don’t even have anyone you can talk to him about as you are embarrassed and keeping it a secret.  You will also have to work hard at re-building your self-esteem.  I know I did – not just because the man treats you like garbage, but because I never saw myself as someone who would date a married man, and it really upset me about myself. I made all kinds of excuses to myself – but there really is no excuse or rationale.  I have just have had to try and forgive myself for going against one of my basic rules in life.

Everyone thinks with their guy it is different – NO, it ISN’T. They are all after sex with someone other than their wife. Mine was also very interested in me cooking for him or at least providing the food (Chinese or a pizza, whatever). When they are done with you or you become too “demanding” (like wanting some of their time), they will drop you like a hot potato. And because you have more integrity in your little finger than he will ever have in his entire body, you won’t do him any damage by calling his wife, etc.  After all, it isn’t her fault that her husband is a jerk. Why cause her grief? I’d like to grab his gonads and twist them several times around, but, you know, he isn’t worth it. I just hope he isn’t continuing to prey on other naive women ..

Now, if you are happy with the “friend with benefits” scenario where you will not get personally attached, etc., maybe it is different for you. But then again, why have this arrangement with a married man when you can have it with a single man if that’s the kind of relationship you’re looking for. At least you’ll be able to call this guy at his home or office. And the two of you are on an equal standing rather than one of you being essentially abused and taken advantage of. Not that I recommend the “friend with benefits” thing myself; I’m just saying that can be had with a single man as easily as a married man.  I still think the danger of becoming romantically attached is too much of a risk.

This is based on my personal experience and believe me, I’m still stuck in it.When people I used to know found out what I have been doing, how I had been living, they asked me why. Until now I have no other answer than “because I love him.”

So if you’re reading these and thinking of trying, please think twice. I know how exciting it sounds, specially for the thrill seekers. Please make sure that once you find yourself in, you’d know how to get yourself out.

“Because I was born to be the other woman, who belonged to no one, who belonged to everyone. Who had nothing, who wanted everything”

– Lana Del Rey

What about LOVE?

“Love is a temporary madness.”

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It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides.And when it subsides you have to make a decision.You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.

Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion.

That is just being “in love” which any of us can convince ourselves we are.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.
Be with someone who you don’t have to hide from, in any way. Whether it’s your morning face before you’ve put your make up on, an embarrassing story to tell about something that happened on your way home, or an ambition you’ve had since you were six… make sure you end up with someone who knows all of it and still loves you. A person you can tell your whole life to is a person worth spending a life with.

What Happens When Someone Breaks Your Heart?

When someone breaks your heart, first you are shocked. Someone will say you are heartbroken and you examine the words break and heart and heartbroken and immediately decide that it’s inaccurate.You feel pain in the region of your heart and you think it’s your heart breaking but one’s heart doesn’t really break, something else does-faith. You stop believing.

No, not in the big things which are most of the time irrelevant. You still believe in God or Buddha or some Supreme Being , you still believe child prostitution is bad. You just stop believing in the small things that you do, the small things that give meaning to your daily life, and you begin to think everything is pointless: Why get up? Why dress up? Why breathe in and out? What for? What for?

When someone breaks your heart (your faith), you stop believing and you switch off the lights inside your heart.
Someone is home but that someone is lying in the dark, in the room farthest from the gate , and that someone can’t hear anything.
Friends , parents , they all call out to her from the gate (“Come out” which means Move on”) but they are unheard, unseen, unacknowledged.

When someone breaks your heart, you turn into a small ball of self-pity. You lie in bed, in a ball. You hug your knees, keeping them close to your chest , like a fetus. Freud said it’s human instinct to go back to the womb where we can feel safe.

But that’s what happens when someone breaks your heart they steal the very thing that makes you feel safe, whole, intact.